And so
she taught me my letters when I was 3. I
still remember Mama at the ironing board, handing me her homemade flash cards
one letter at a time.
“That’s
an A. That’s the big letter A. No need to worry about the little letters
till you learn these,” she explained as she handed me the first piece of brown
cardboard. “Now you take that pencil and
try to copy it and let me get some ironing done.”
Every
day it became our ritual. Me sat in the
big living room chair, a leaf from the dining room table laid across its brown
tweedy arms for my makeshift desk. Mama
doing her kitchen chores while I learned.
I was around 4 when I figured out that to actually make the words the
letters had to be threaded together just right or else they were just letters.
Daddy
used to say that’s when I really began pestering everybody and driving them all
crazy with my constant questions. “Does
N-G-L-A spell anything?”
“Nope.”
“Does
D-C-A-F spell anything?
“Nope.”
But one
day, a day that I can still recall clear as a bell, I received a different
answer. Daddy and I had been to the dump
together and I was dressed in my little overalls that were just like his. We were riding in the old Ford
and I was standing up in the middle of the front seat, my hand resting on his
shoulder engaged in my usual questioning.
“Does
B-T-J-Z spell anything?”
“Nope.”
“Does
P-O-L-E spell anything?”
Suddenly
he broke into a big surprised smile and he said, “Yesiree Bob! It spells pole! Just like that telephone pole over there,”
and he pointed at the big poles dotting the roadside. “Yes sir!
You spelled pole!” I remember so
well that thrill of accomplishment and elation.
With this
collection I hope to begin to share my writing with you and open a dialogue
from our many collective points of view.
In some of my stories and essays one may take umbrage with certain words
that I may use to relate some of my personal history. Words that some who prefer to be politically
correct would have me edit, change or just leave unsaid.
Because
I am a woman of a certain age I have lived through a period of time that has
been one of the most rapid and extreme cultural transitions in our history. Adding to that is the fact that I also came
up through rural poverty and generations of very old school traditions and
expectations. I have worked hard to
understand and grow beyond such circumstances, while no longer denying my
roots. In other words I won’t be doing
revisionist history when I share certain stories from my past, no matter how it
pains me that it happened or that such beliefs were held. I believe we must acknowledge the “sins of
our past” before we can move forward into greater compassion, understanding and
enlightenment.
For
example, I had the good fortune to play the role of Mary Todd Lincoln with a
terrific NYC theater company in a weekly Underground Soap Opera. Our story line was written by Todd Alcott, an
excellent writer who had done intensive research on the Lincolns, their era and
the Civil War. In fact he even pulled
direct quotes from speeches and writings of the time to lend even more
historical accuracy.
Early
on in the series, one of the first scenes I did was when Stephen Douglas had
asked for Mary Todd’s hand in marriage from her brother-in-law who agreed to
the union without consulting Mary. Upon
being informed of the agreement, rather than the expected joy, my line as Mary
was, “You expect me to simply agree to an arranged marriage? Why Mr. Douglas, I
may as well be a slave if that’s what you think of me.”
A
member of the theater board had been watching the dress and tech rehearsal and
came backstage immediately to ask that Mary’s line be cut because it sounded too
racist. Our playwright protested that in
actual fact the scene depicted exactly what had been said as it had been well
documented.
Again
she protested, “But it’s just such a racist thing to say.”
To
which I, no longer capable of biting my tongue since it was now only hanging by
a thread anyway, interjected with, “Do you know much about the Civil War? Because that whole thing was pretty darn
racist.”
Simply
put, no matter how much we wish we could change certain events of the past, be
they historical or autobiographical, I believe we must first own the past in
order to truly move forward and do better.
Because everything that has happened has led to this point in time, to
this day and minute, to the person you are right now, to the conversation we
can begin now that will lead to greater growth.
The
more I know and understand the more I want to know and understand. Because of that need over the years I have
taken tons of classes, studied with masters, gone to a myriad of workshops,
consulted psychics and tarot cards, read hundreds of books, gone through first
therapy then Jungian analysis, filled journal after journal in the hope of
becoming what God has intended for me to be.
I don’t wish to shirk the task that the “Home Office” has in mind for me
and I certainly don’t wish to waste all of the challenges and experiences that
I have gathered this lifetime. It is my
hope that in sharing what life has taught me perhaps even just a small beam of
light might shine into what has been a dark place. Maybe a short story will make you laugh. Perhaps an essay will make you look at an
idea from a different angle or make you so mad that you feel compelled to write
your own opinion. Because in the best
case scenario you might decide to share your life stories too. I’m looking forward to that, so let the
dialogue begin.
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